Art of loving

We all have many relationships like mother, father, husband, wife, brothers, sisters, friends etc. And of course, we love them a lot. But why sometimes it becomes very difficult to mantain a relationship?

And from here arises a question how a relationship should be? 

Surely, I don't have a formula or some magic to manage relationships but Yaa, a little change in perception would suffice. So, let's see it from a different angle to click a better shot...isn't it?

If we notice the relationship between a mother and a child, a mother loves her child the most and accept it completely the way god has given it to her, doesn't matter if it is not good looking, not talented or differently able. For her... her child is everything and that is what we call unconditional love. And I think one of the best relationships that exists on this earth is that of the parent and the child and there is no better way to learn how to love someone i.e., loving them unconditionally.

Nowadays, lots of problems are arising in managing a healthy relationship with others and the reason being not accepting the other person completely. Once we get into a relationship why do we start attaching so many conditions and expectations to the other person? Can't we give someone the freedom to 'be themselves' and to act their way rather than imposing our expectations on them to act our way. 

We need to fix one thing in our mind that nothing in this world is perfect and in reality, the term perfect doesn't exist. There are exceptions and flaws everywhere whatsoever and whosoever it is. So, searching for a perfect relationship, seeking or expecting it from others will always give us dejection. Don't bind yourself or others with lots of conditions & expectations. Just set others free to be themselves when they are with you and at the same time make sure that you are not losing your originality just for the sake of fulfilling someone's expectations.

The most important thing is to accept someone's everything their pain, their flaws, their guilt, their regret, their mood swings every corner of their heart which doesn't feel good sometimes.

Loving someone is loving them whole even if they are miles away from being perfect.


प्रेम ही जीवन का आधार है तो चलिए प्रेम से कहिए 'राधे राधेे' ❣️


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  1. UnknownDecember 11, 2020 at 10:35 AM

    Radhe radhe 🙏🙏🙏😊..... Nice explanation

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  2. UnknownDecember 30, 2020 at 9:34 AM

    Saying "राधे राधे" is different thing.
    Radhe radhe words are said to love of a partner(LOVER).

    Ur explanation is fabulous, but you have forgotten something to put inside i.e. Love of our DAD or PAPA.

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    1. SonaThakurJanuary 5, 2021 at 10:13 PM

      Thanks a lot..😊😊
      And one thing I did not forget the love of a father, nor can I forget.
      I just tried to explain my point with the example of a mother. There can be other examples too.

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    2. UnknownJanuary 5, 2021 at 11:25 PM

      Yes, u are wright But we always try to keep our father's love back. Don't know why ???..
      As much mother's respect as Dad

      It should be equilibrium.

      I hope next blog will be for our Dad

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    3. UnknownMarch 6, 2021 at 10:26 PM

      It is not necessary that Radhe-Radhe can only speak lovers. Most of all, Radhe Radhe is speaking only by the devotees of God.

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    4. UnknownMarch 6, 2021 at 10:27 PM

      राधे राधे!

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    5. UnknownMarch 6, 2021 at 10:54 PM

      १.जब श्रीमद्भगवद्गीता का समापन होता है तब बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      २. चारों वेदों में से किसी का भी अध्ययन पूरा हो जाए तब बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      ३.जब किसी शुभ कार्य के लिए घर से निकले तब बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      ४.जब घर में आते हैं तब बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      ५ जब किसी से मिलते हैं तो फिर बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      ६ सब वेदों का सार राधे राधे
      कृष्ण का हर भक्त बोलता है राधे राधे
      ७ जब किसी शुभ कार्य की शुरुआत की जाती है तब बोला जाता है राधे राधे
      तुम कहते हो सिर्फ प्रेमी ही बोलता है अगर हर प्रेमी अपने आप को राधा कृष्ण समझने लगे तो उनके प्रेम में त्याग की भावना उत्पन्न होती जो कि आजकल के प्रेमियों में नहीं है वह अपने आपको अहंकार में मार लेते हैं अहंकार से उत्पन्न होता है क्रोध क्रोध से वासनाऔर वह प्रेम आसक्ति का होता है राधे-राधे बोलने वाले प्रेमियों का अहंकार स्वाभिमान में बदल जाएगा। स्वाभिमान से ईश्वर के प्रति श्रद्धा आएगी श्रद्धा से मन एकाग्र होगा मन अपने आप को दास समझने लगेगा और उस प्रेम में त्याग की भावना उत्पन्न होगी और जो प्रेमी राधे-राधे बोलेंगे वही सच्चे प्रेमी है जिनमें त्याग की भावना उत्पन्न होती है
      राधा ही जीवन का आधार है अर्थात प्रेम ही जीवन का आधार है

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    6. UnknownMarch 6, 2021 at 10:55 PM

      राधे राधे

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  3. UnknownMarch 6, 2021 at 10:06 PM

    Yes, love is the basis of life, we got this knowledge from your explanation, from where you explain it well by giving an example of mother and her son in your material. What do you think of god and devotees

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